I’d heard a version of this same statement numerous times this summer. In workshops. In meetings. In one-on-one conversations. I’ve read it in articles too.

“These ideas [about Loving Leadership] are so obvious. They are something we all know.”

But why don't we do them?

You see, that fallen tree became the nurse log of new life. New strong seedlings sent down roots in and around the remains of the old tree. I found my voice, reclaimed my life, and with lots of support, had the courage to change and grow.

If you are feeling confined because you don't have the budget or the capacity or the bandwidth or the support for the Big Things you wish you could do, remember you have a BIG collection of little things that, truthfully, are the Big Things! 

What I'm reflecting on most is something I said to our friends when they expressed gratitude for us taking the time with them. 

Loving Leaders hold the needs of people each day. And they hold the need to embed Love in all aspects of their work – in purpose, in process, in systems, in structures. They hold loving responsibility to care about these details.  

Loving Leader, as you do that work today, pause and remember what holds you, even while you are holding all this.

Years ago, when I was in graduate school, Peter Block was teaching our class and asked for four volunteers but didn't say what for. I hesitated and four other people volunteered. Then he said, “Thank you. Now reflect and share with a partner about the choice you just made, and how that is representative of what you always do.” 

Sometimes things do work out!! We research, plan, collaborate, work hard, send out prayers or positive energy, and, lo and behold, we achieve our goal! 

What next?

When my eight year old grandson Carson came from Tennessee to stay with us in Washington State for two weeks in July, we committed to be TV and screen free for entertainment for his entire visit.

Sometimes even with our best efforts as leaders and on our teams, things don’t work out the way we envision. In fact, often they don’t!

Life has a way of continually bringing us to our edge. Sometimes it's our personal edge. Sometimes it's our professional edge. Most of us try to avoid spending too much time at the edge where we feel unsafe. But like I said, life consistently takes us back to that precipice of our fear.